I'm gay and recently got sober after partying for two decades & now I’m behind on life. Will I ever catch up?

I’m gay and recently got sober after partying for two decades & now I’m behind on life. Will I ever catch up?

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Dec. 15, 2023 – Getting sober is a huge, huge accomplishment, and you should feel really proud of yourself. It can be really easy to fall into a life of partying as a queer person, and a lot harder to crawl out of it. Drinking and drugs are entrenched in gay culture, and temptations are everywhere. Add to that our trauma of growing up feeling marginalized or taught to be ashamed about who we are and it’s no wonder we seek escape.

When we fall too far down that rabbit hole, it can definitely wreak havoc on our stability in the world, and it can feel like we haven’t been prioritizing the things we’re supposed to. After all, when you’re lining up your party favors for 4th of July in P-town, you’re not exactly focussing on which index fund you should be contributing to.

The important part is that you’ve realized the negative impacts of your lifestyle, and were willing to seek help and make change, which takes a whole lot of bravery. This is what your main focus should be on, rather than beating yourself up for the past.